Confront An Alcholic In Denial

Confront An Alcholic In Denial

As you see a loved one tumbling down the spiral of alcoholism, confronting them about this can indeed open a can of worms. Over time you’ll realize that even though you might lose the energy and patience to get them to quit drinking, they will never run out of excuses. As frustrating and futile this exercise might seem, don’t give up just yet. Egging them on to quit alcohol is a getting them one step closer to recovery. In the end, it’s this very constant nagging that will ultimately lead them to at least consider seeking treatment.

Confronting an alcoholic is tedious and don’t expect to spark a positive reaction in the first confrontation. More often than not, it might turn ugly and you would probably want to pull your hair out. In such a situation, you’ll want to approach them with some thought and to help you; a few tips are given below-

– For starters, don’t decide to confront an alcoholic when he/she is under the influence; it won’t get you anywhere.

– Start by telling them how you feel. Don’t jump to the negative aspect right away. Instead of criticizing them, speak about the harm they’re causing.

– Don’t launch a direct attack on them. Instead, talk about your feelings and concerns for that person. Although some people prefer the aggressive approach, but it’s important to know whether the alcoholic will react positively or negatively to it.

– It’s only natural that when you confront them, they will deny it. So instead of taking it to any extremes, host an open dialogue and attempt to have a conversation about the problem.

– If the alcoholic is continually unwilling to seek help and continues drinking despite your efforts, you might have to define the boundaries that could arise in your relationship as a result of their alcohol abuse. Like, you cannot see them whilst they’re indulging in this abuse. You could try telling them that this will eventually lead to resentment. It also helps protect you from the toll of having a chronic alcoholic in your life.

– Your last play in the book should be hosting a formal intervention for the alcoholic. You should know that alcoholics don’t quit drinking until the things start spiraling out of total control. Gathering friends and family for a surprise confrontation will only cause anger and resentment. A formal intervention might be something they need. You could even seek some professional assistance in this matter.

These are just a guide to help you deal with an alcoholic dear one and help themselves as well as you! Alcoholism is often referred to a ‘family disease’; it starts affecting the people and relationships around the chronic alcoholic as well. A tip for you here- learn to manage your expectations when dealing with an alcoholic.

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Sagar is co-founder and CTO at Multia, a leading creative agency in Pune. He started his venture when he was 16, he has won numerous international and national web development competitions and has worked on 100+ web, mobile and online marketing projects. He’s a globe-trotter and has traveled to San Francisco, Paris, Amsterdam, Berlin, Dubai, Jakarta and Bali Islands.
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